In America, it seems we focus so much on the Divorce Rate, that we neglect to analyze the Happiness Rate.
When I say Happiness, I mean the couples, that are genuinely happy.
- Not the couples that would rather do a 1000 things before going home a night.
- Not the couples that plaster fake smiles on their faces for friends, family, and coworkers.
- Not the couples that have to have “friends”, just to get by.
- Not the couples that argue everyday and call it spice.
- Not the couples that regularly sleep in separate beds.
- Not the couples that verbally and physically abuse each other.
- Not the couples that could care less about keeping the other happy.
BUT, the truly happy couples.
- The couples that are considerate of each other’s feelings.
- The couples that pay attention to the likes and dislikes of each other and act accordingly.
- The couples that love their mates enough to always strive to be a better mate.
- The couples that try their best to keep romance alive.
- The couples that are always trying to improve communication.
- The couples that are open-minded and respectful of each other.
- The couples that compete with each other to please each other.
- The couples that enjoy each other’s company.
There is a reason I didn’t say Married instead of Happy.
Throughout my 31 years of life, I have realized that marriage doesn’t automatically equal happiness and happiness does not automatically equal marriage.
I personally believe that there are a a lot of loving couples that could provide some fantastic advice to struggling married couples and some very successful marriages that could provide some great advice for dating couples.
Society seems to concentrate so much on the divorce rate that we forget about who’s actually happy, married or not!
Homework for 2011, find a “loving” couple and find out everything you can about them and their relationship.
- Find out how they handle happiness.
- Find out how they handle unhappiness.
- Find out how they handle communication.
- Find out how they handle friendships.
- Find out how they handle romance.
- Find out how they handle finance.
- Find out how they handle education.
- Find out how they handle “love”.
There is an old saying that says, “Each one, teach one”.
Teaching others how to accomplish a successful relationship is education we could all use.