You better LOVE it, if you’re gonna put a RING on it

Dictionary.com defines “love” as…

  1. a profoundly tender, passionate affection for another person.
  2. a feeling of warm personal attachment or deep affection, as for a parent, child, or friend.
  3. sexual passion or desire.4.a person toward whom love is felt; beloved person; sweetheart.

The Bible defines “love” (1 Corinthians 13:4-8) as…

Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.Love never fails.

Now no matter what definition or combination of terms you’d like to use to describe love, I think we can all agree that it is a strong emotion.

Although, my aspiring career as a blogger may quickly come to an end after I speak on Beyonce, just know that I meant well.

In Beyonce’s song, “Put a ring on it”, she begins the song, speaking to “single” ladies. I am going to jump out on a limb and assume this means any females that are non married. (Please correct me if I am wrong)

In summary, she just broke up with a guy she was dating for three years. She is now out at a club mingling with another guy. The EX now notices her and she says, “If you like it then you should have put a ring on it.”

Now, I have no idea if this was written by Beyonce or not, but lets assume this was a “real” scenario.

If by ring she means engagement ring and by “on it” she means her ring finger, then the song is misleading.

The media has to be one of the most influential tools created by man. Nine times out of ten, things that reach our eyes and ears through television, internet, and radio, stay there and affect our judgement one way or another.

It scares me to wonder how many females gave their man an ultimatum after this song, but that’s neither here nor there.

An engagement is a precursor to marriage, no matter how you look at it. To take this period of time lightly, would be to take marriage lightly.

As a PSA, LIKING it is not enough to put a ring on it. If that is the case then everyone that likes someone is going to be engaged very soon.

Love is a very powerful feeling that should spark some very powerful actions. Love should make you take a much closer look at yourself and the other person.

Besides, this is the person that you are COMMITTING to for the REST OF YOUR LIFE.

LOVE should spark things.

  • Love should spark the fire of effort and determination.
  • Love should spark the fire of commitment and dedication.
  • Love should spark the fire of creativity and spice.
  • Love should spark the fire of clarity and communication.
  • Love should spark the fire of passion and romance.
  • Love should spark the fire of learning and perfecting.

Do not be fooled into thinking that because Beyonce said it, that you should take it literally, because I have to assume that she wants the man who commits to her for life to more than like her, but love her and show it through action.

Okay, I’m done. Please forgive me…

ALMOST FORGOT. Fellas, DO NOT put a ring on it just because you were given an ultimatum or feel guilty. The act of marriage is much to serious and forever to do it for any reason other than the fact that you love her and are ready to spend the next 50+ years showing her that!

Now I am really done.

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4 comments

  1. Ok, the name of the song is “Single Ladies.” With that being said, what about the men that “put a ring on it” because they want a trophy wife? Or they just want to get married out of loneliness? Women are not the only ones that are thirsty for various reasons.

    • Rhonda, While I definitely agree with you on the different reasons men may propose and get married, I just thought of the wording in her song. Now that you mention it, Jagged Edge’s song, “Let’s get married”, was almost as bad. “Meet me at the alter in your white dress, we ain’t gettin’ no younger girl, we might as well do this…” 😦 Just as bad. You are right about getting married to cure loneliness when they don’t realize that an unhappy or unsatisfied spouse can leave you just as alone.

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