Dictionary.com defines “Love” as…
1. a profoundly tender, passionate affection for another person.
2. a feeling of warm personal attachment or deep affection, as for a parent, child, or friend.
It also defines “Companionship” as…
1. association as companions; fellowship.
You are walking through the mall and you spot someone very attractive from across the hall. The first thing you notice is their eyes. They look at you as if to say hello, long before the person’s lips ever move. They smile. An inviting smile. They slow their pace, giving you just enough time to fully capture the “body shot”. They are just the way you like. As your eyes gaze lower you notice, attached to their hand is a child.
What is the first thing that crosses your mind?
- They won’t have enough time for me, if they have a child to raise.
- I don’t deal with “Baby mama” or “Baby daddy” drama.
- How can we go on a date if he’s paying child support?
- That child looks bad and I don’t even want to go there.
- I don’t want a ready made family.
These all “may” be valid concerns, if you’ve introduced yourself, said the right thing to even gain their interest enough to exchange numbers, and then get to know them well enough to even be introduced to the child.
The keyword here is MAY.
It is interesting how soon we forget that a single parent MAY be…
- More responsible, because they have to be if they want to be a good parent.
- More thoughtful, because the thoughtfulness a child could bring out of you, can’t be compared to anything else.
- More romantic, because a child can take so much energy, that when you have romantic alone time, you go all out.
- More appreciative, because doing anything difficult, alone, can truly make you appreciate companionship when you find it.
- More mature, because raising a child can make you encounter, assess, and overcome more situations than you can think of.
Now I could come up with many more, but I think I’ve made my point.
Before you decide that the cover to the book will tell you all you need to know about a person and their circumstances, keep in mind that some of God’s greatest gifts can come from situations WE originally assumed could have never come from such a situation.
Let’s not be too presumptious for our own “future” good.
To the single parents out there, I believe two major things can make dating a little easier for you.
- Have a well mannered child
- Have a well mannered “Baby’s Mother or Father”
Either problem could turn someone off very quickly.
The only relationships that are guaranteed to fail, are the one’s that never begin!